Jade-Spade

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
cloverlady
creature-wizard

Folks have got to understand that they probably aren't messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can't remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don't even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.

tchrspest

Whether you're carrying one big rock or a big ol' bucket of sand, it's going to weigh on you just as much.

ramshacklefey

This is why psychologists have started taking more of an interest in CPTSD in the last 10-15 years. What most people know as PTSD is a response to a single, intensely traumatic event (or even a series of events). However, CPTSD (chronic post-traumatic stress disorder) is caused by living for years in a situation where your nervous system cannot catch a break. Even if nothing huge ever happened to you, you always had to be on guard for a thousand little things that could and did happen.

After years and years of this, your nervous system gets "stuck" in an activated threat response. It never really lets you rest, and if this started when you were a kid, you may not develop a lot of neural pathways that you should have, because your brain was too focused on keeping you safe to bother with little things like "genuine human connection" and "interpersonal attachment."

dirtsnirt
chthonic-pain

nobody warns you this but addiction happens without you noticing and one of the first things that it attacks is your ability to care. if you find yourself using recreational drugs every day, stop and take one day a week sober. if you struggle with this or if you don't see the point of the exercise, you are likely already addicted and you need help.

chthonic-pain

nobody ever taught me the warning signs for drug addiction, only that "it costs lots of money and destroys your life!!!1" which is not helpful if you can't recognize a developing addiction in yourself.

so here's some things to watch out for with recreational drug use:

  • planning your day around drugs e.g "i'll give myself an extra half hour before heading out so i can get high first"
  • rapidly switching emotions around drugs. you love them but you hate that you love them so much. you hate the way you feel on them but you hate being sober. feeling guilty after using even when you didn't give a crap beforehand.
  • caring less about spending money. if you are budgeting for drugs like they are food, you are likely prioritizing them more than is healthy.
  • getting high to do household chores and other unpleasant things because it would suck less and be more bearable on drugs
  • feeling anxious or restless while sober, not knowing what to do with oneself, feeling lost or ungrounded.
  • thinking about doing drugs constantly even while sober. maybe it's the first thing you think of when you wake up. maybe when you're bored or otherwise have free time, drugs are one of the first things you can think of to occupy yourself with.
  • going to work or school while under the influence, especially if it happens regularly and if you're seeing your performance suffer as a result.
  • the idea of taking a 'tolerance break' sounds good to you until it's actually break time, at which point you can come up with 20 very reasonable sounding points to explain why it wouldn't benefit you actually and you should just keep doing drugs regardless.
  • even if you succeed at quitting the drug, you keep your dealer's number on your phone "just in case"
  • you pretend to be sober when you aren't. you worry about other people noticing how much time you spend high. you make efforts to hide your drug use or minimize how much other people think you're using. you're scared of other people's judgement if they were to find out.
  • you have mood swings laced with self-hatred, regret, financial worries, and guilt. these mood swings are then very quickly wiped away by feelings of "but it doesn't matter, i can do what i want, and clearly i'm doing just fine while using drugs frequently". news flash, if you are rapidly switching between feeling numb-ok and hating yourself more than anything because of your drug use, you are mentally ill.

yes this applies to weed. weed is a drug and you can get addicted to it like any other substance. addiction is not the same as physical dependence; it is psychological and it can happen to anyone. you are not immune to addiction.

the-goblin-cat
blackboard-monitor

which type of comics did you read the most growing up

BD (Belgian & French comics like Asterix or Tintin)

manga

USAmerican comic books (Marvel, DC etc.)

USAmerican comic strips (Peanuts, Calvin & Hobbes etc.)

Disney comics (Donald Duck etc.)

webcomics

something else

i didn't read comics

put where you're from in the tags if you like!

newspaper comics when i was really little then tintin took over-
the-goblin-cat
cryptotheism

I get why non-californians aren't comfortable with being called "dude" but it really is a gender neutral term here. I call my mom dude. Elderly waitresses are dudes. Small insects I notice throughout my day are dudes. Kitchen utensils I cannot find are dudes.

cryptotheism

If you don't wanna be called bro or dude, that's totally cool, but I am being genuine when I say any cat is a total brah.